Who are you at your core? Who are you when you put down your roles, your masks, and your desire to please others. Often the life we lead is based on the expectations of others, well-meaning parents, teachers, friends, and spouses. When we spent out lives doing what others expect, we feel hollow as if we have settled. Living a comfortable save and secure life inside a box instead of valuing ourselves, who we are and our gifts and talents. Yet letting going of these masks, our personas, and just being ourselves can feel too scary, too risky.
Authentic Self Definitions
The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.
The authentic self is also called our true self, our essence, and our core self. The opposite is our ego, our false self. This is the self you were created to be. When you are your authentic self, staying true to yourself because more important than what others think of you. For most of us, that can feel risky. To be able to stay true to our own personality, spirit and character, no matter what is happening outside of us is a gift, allowing us to live from our authentic selves.
The benefits of staying true to our authentic selves are powerful:
- You feel comfortable in your own skin.
- You feel congruent, your inside and your outside match.
- You feel confident.
- You may even like yourself.
- Others feel comfortable in your presence.
How can I find my authentic self?
Being our authentic self is based on the choices we make every day. Choosing to be real, to be honest, to be in integrity, to let our true selves be seen. It takes courage to value being real over being liked. Being authentic may not always feel like the safe, don’t rock the boat option. Being our authentic selves takes both courage and practice. The journey is not always easy but I have found the practice well worth Being authentic is not a destination but a continual journey.
As I work with Life Coach clients, I empower them to first be clear on who they really are. This can go my many names, true self, essence, core self or authentic self. When you know who you are at your core – your authentic self then it becomes much easier to decide on what to do with your life and who you want to be by your side on this lifetime journey. We know we are acting as our authentic selves when our inner and outer selves match and we feel content and at peace.
Being your authentic self can also come with great rewards:
As Oprah said, “I had no idea that being your authentic self could make me as rich as I’ve become. If I had, I’d have done it a lot earlier.”
Being our authentic selves discovering who we are and what we are capable of is often the journey of midlife and beyond. And once we know who we are and we follow that path, life becomes easier and much more fun and sometimes as Oprah said, even rich.
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