Who makes the important decisions in your life?
Of course we want to answer that with “I do.” However, how many times do you do what you think you should, or what someone expects of you? We want to please others and meet their expectations. We don’t want to let out kids, our spouse, our parents, our boss or our friends down. As a Life Coach, I empower clients to take charge of their lives.
So are the decisions and choices you make in your life for you or for someone else, living or dead?
Often we think that what we are doing is our choice when so often we have unconsciously limited our choices by only considering “choices” that would be considered acceptable by others.
I don’t want to selfish.
We may have been operating this way for so long that we see any other way as selfish. We may feel that there is something wrong with us if we don’t put others first. We may not even realize we’re doing it.
Remember when you are flying – always put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others.
The same goes for all of life. The more we take charge of our lives, the more confident we feel. We have the ability to make choices that are right for us. We have a path. We make decisions easier.
Wen we take charge of our lives, we know who we are, what we want and how to get there. Our success does not take away from or diminish the success of others. There’s plenty of room for all of us to be confident, to be pleased with who we are and to be successful on our terms.
Taking charge of our life starts with our own willingness. We don’t have to know how. We just know that what we have in our lives in not what we ultimately want.
We feel confident when we take charge of our lives. Yes you can dream big. You can have bold goals, even bodacious goals.Click here to download the free eBook: 37 WAYS TO OVERCOME OVERWHELM
Each time we take a baby step towards our goal, knowing that we successful completed one more steps, no matter how tiny; we gain confidence. The trick is to know what your goals are. You don’t need to know all the steps necessary to make your dreams come true. You just need to know the next step.
If you want to start a business, start by researching similar businesses or even looking for business ideas. If you want a great relationship, start by journaling about what a great relationship would be like for you or learn communication skills and practice them with friends and family. If you want a leadership position, start by being the leader of your own life.
Time to Take Charge of Your Life
With each step we gain confidence. We take charge of our lives. When we take charge of our lives we become the masters of our own fate. When we focus on what we can control, what we can control grows.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
With over twenty years experience, Certified Life Coach Amelia Barnes empowers women in midlife to take charge of their life. You’ve read self help books and tried other approaches. Amelia’s work is not for beginners but those ready and willing to create the life of their dreams. Her work is playful, intuitive and delves deep allowing not just surface changes but powerful work to transform your life and create what you most want with clarity, courage and confidence. Are you ready for a change? Contact Amelia at Amelia@inneroutcomes.com. Empowering Women in Life, Love and Leadership.