Getting unstuck requires us to do something different in the moment. The only time we can get unstuck is in the moment to do something different no matter how small. You probably remember from physics that it takes a whole lot more energy to move an object that is not in motion than to move an object that is already in motion. So you, being the object that is stuck needs to figure out somehow to get in motion.
Have you ever just felt stuck? Stuck can come in many forms: not sure what to do next, feeling overwhelmed, feeling like you’ve been doing the same things over and over again for years or simply feeling that the life you are living, is not the life you ordered. As a life coach, I empower people to get unstuck and to close the gap from where they are to where they want to be. Sometimes we feel so stuck we have lost sight of where we want to be and only know that it’s not here!
It’s easy to stay stuck to live life as a victim, realizing that you have a choice may be the most powerful thing that you can do.
Seven Tips To Get Unstuck
1. Acknowledge Your Stuck
In this very moment or you going around in circles or keeping very busy but not accomplishing what you most want. Denial is wonderful but it doesn’t help us move forward. Only when we acknowledge we are stuck can we do anything about it.
Who knew the act of taking three to eight deep breaths can make such a difference and bring you back to the moment. Shallow breathing can cause anxiety (and heart attacks.) Focus on your breathing, nice, slow and deep. Take a moment to relax.
Take a walk. Get up and stretch. Wiggle. Moving alone has so many wonderful benefits. It helps us look at things from a different point of view, plus when we move we release all sorts of feel good hormones that let us look at ourselves and the world from a different point of view.
When we say a heartfelt appreciation to another person, they feel better, we feel better and anyone who observed the appreciation also feels better. While you’re at it, stop beating up yourself and appreciate yourself. Savor and celebrate any small or large accomplishment.
5. Ask Questions
Write down all the questions you have. What would you need to know to get unstuck? What information would you need? Who’s help would you need? What would be different? What could you do differently? Write all the reasons – write them as questions – stay curious – that keep you stuck.
6. Listen to Your Feelings NOT The Story
The story in our heads often keeps us stuck but the story in our heads – that goes round and round and doesn’t want to shut up is often not true. In fact, that story is often what keep us stuck. Instead get out of your head, notice the feelings in your body. Are you tense or relaxed? Is your breathing deep or shallow? Focus on the feelings, not the story.
7. Take action
Take an action any action. Get the ball rolling. Just do something. Anything. Take the simplest easiest next action step that you can think of. Maybe that step is to call a life coach. Whatever it is just do it. There now you’re in action. You’re ready for the next step. Go for it. You can do it.
For more information on getting unstuck, check out the book: Getting Unstuck: How Dead Ends Become New Paths by Harvard Business Professor Timothy Butler.